Balance

Trying to balance motherhood, marriage, a career, friendships, socializing and personal hobbies can be, and is, exhausting.

"It's all about Balance, right?" How many times have we heard that?

I have been asked a few times, where I find the time to go out, to do something for myself.

How do I find the time? This is simple, I JUST DO.

Before I got pregnant with Sara, I had a set schedule. I knew that Wednesdays or Thursdays was "girls night" and that weekend meant a new outing with my husband and friends. I worked Monday-Friday, and did not mind getting 3-4 hours of sleep if I really wanted to do something fun.

Then came motherhood.

I found myself exhausted - ALL THE TIME. I realized how many insecurities I had (postpartum), and how it effected my will to do anything. I found myself always making excuses. I was too tired to work out, my daughter took too much of my time. She demanded SO MUCH. I had TOO much on my plate, I didn't have any help (which was not the case at all), I was the one person in my household that EVERYTHING, other than a 9-5, fell on. I let my daughter control my day, instead of me having control over it.

Slowly, but surely, I started snapping out of it. And now, I find that life, everyday messy life, is all about Balance.

I can spend all day doing creative activities with my daughter. Going to the park, coloring, learning, cuddling and just taking it all in. But once the night sneaks in, and the household wines down. I can put myself together in an hour and be out the door. I find the time to grab my husband, go out to dinner, hang out with friends, go out for drinks and dancing, or simply have a glass, or 5, of wine and actually WINE DOWN. I don't let "I'm tired" get in the way. The next day, I will wake up and do it all over again.

How did I get here? I stopped feeling bad. I stopped criticizing my motherhood skills. I stopped taking unnecessary advise from people I had no interest in listening to. I stopped judging and second guessing every decision I made. I knew I was a badass mother and that I put my daughters needs before ANYTHING and that she was my priority. I knew that taking care of myself and my needs did not mean I was lacking being a mother.

I can't say this enough. STOP BEING YOUR OWN WORST CRITIC. In every aspect of your life. Find time to balance your wants as a woman, and your needs as a mother.

With Love,

a mama + her mini